KEYS TO MY HEART

Archana is probably trying to pay me back for all the compliments I paid in my first post. Not to be modest, I’ve seen archana change over the past few years I’ve been with her. If you compare the dull and depressed archana I ran into, to the one I’m with right now. I find no comparison at all. The ebullience and charm that runs through her veins now was only visible in glimpses when we were first together. The transformation still amazes me.

Oddly enough, the things I liked about her are the things that bother me a lot too. Which of course brings us to the topic of the blog. Here is a short list of things I hate about archana. Even though these are not the things I’d wish she would change about herself, its something that annoys me once in awhile.

1. Assertiveness: Rather the lack of it, she is probably the nicest girl on earth. And I can say it is her bane. She can never say “No” to anything or anyone. And for this reason, I sometimes feel that some people who call themselves friends of hers are using her for their needs.

2. Boldness: Another characteristic she lacks in. She is always hesitant about a confrontation unless things go out of hand. She seem to have the knack of suffering in silence even if she is on the right side. I believe this is embedded into the minds of every Indian girl by her parents . Nobody fights, they just blame themselves for everything that happens. Lack of boldness has made a lot of people get away with major things in her life. If I was anywhere closer, I’d have ground their bones to powder. Bala if you’re listening watch out dude. Ofcourse there are the bothersome roomies too.

3. Correcting Spelling mistakes: I’ll probably get some support over here. I know there are probably legions of people suffering from this irksome trait. It is probably the most annoying thing to be told the right way to spell after you’ve had instruction in English for 20 odd years. I mean we all how to spell Foreign. If I spell it foregin, it doesn’t mean I don’t know how it spell it, its just a typo. And sometimes we just misplace I’s and that’s probably common for most guys too. I know some ppl are nodding already.

4. Guys: Probably something we’ll never have end to. Its one thing that bothers me one hell of a lot. The fact that she enjoys the company of guys and trusts them so easily irritates me. I mean there is obviously the jealousy part because the guys get to spend sometime with her than me, also there is the other thing about the kind of guys who she spends her time with. Guys are not always like they seem. They usually try the nice way to get what they want. Being a guy, I feel I know the mentality of guys better than she does.

5. Naivete: You’d fall in love with the childish innocence of hers. But the same innocence on the wrong side will be an absolute torment. She does have the right manners and such but I think she takes strangers into confidence too early without any pretensions. Never wary and easily trusting. Infact, she’d take a business card from a perfect stranger

6. Forgetfulness: I don’t have to elaborate on this point really. Being a PhD student, forgetfulness is something one has to deal with but I think archana had this trait built into her. Maybe this helped her case at the admissions to PhD.

There are probably more but I’d rather end here since I started off saying a short list. This not a fault finding exercise which we Engineers are usually very good at it. But the idea was to prove that even though we’re madly in love with each other, there are a lot of annoyances. The beauty of the relationship is not being to able to love the similarities but to contend with the annoyances and make up for what the other lacks in. In a way, we complement each other in most things. While she is forgetful, I try to remember things for both of us. While she is naive, I try to put her on guard all the time. That, I feel, is what made us stick to each other for so long. .

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