KEYS TO MY HEART

That was quite a story Jagadish. I wonder what happens next If it were the script of a Hindi movie, I’m sure it would be as famous as DDLJ You know what would be absolute rollicking? If someone made Wodehouse’s Pearls, Girls and Monty Bodkin into a movie! Or any of his books really. Someday, when I have the money, that is one project I will pursue.

Coming to the subject of this blog, Shravan remarked that what he really wants to know is how we manage to make a long distance relationship work. In reply, I had said that our blog is already kind of suggesting at how it works for us. We have been together (and geographically apart) for about three years now. And there are, of course, so many factors, it would be impossible to put them down all at once. What I propose to do is perhaps outline what I think is important in the next few blogs. Perhaps Jagadish can chip in with his perspective of these things as well

Let me also direct you to the link titled “Love is..” on the right side of our page. This comic strip, by Kim is my absolute favorite. It is amazing how closely you can relate to it sometimes. Check it out! I can assure you it is worth it.

To start off, one of the most critical things for me is to be able to spend time with him. I think that’s probably critical in any relationship, LDR or not, but perhaps more so in an LDR. I absolutely need to talk to him every single day. Now, he’s got classes starting 8 am everyday, and I’ve got classes starting at 9 am. Since he is in India, morning there translates to night here and vice versa. To make things a little bit more complicated, his schedule changes every semester and mine every quarter now (3 months). And to add a little bit more masala in the mix, we have DST out here in the US. Considering all these factors, it’s truly remarkable how we find any time in common at all!

My morning starts around 6 am, when Jagadish sends me a message or a brief call if that doesnt do the trick, to wake me up. We chat up for a bit and I go about my daily routine to get to school. By the time class is done with, it’s rather late in India and Jagadish gets his sleep. From class, I drive down to lab and the day goes by. I return home at no particular time–sometime between 5 and 7 pm in the night, and days I teach, it’s closer to 9 pm. Jagadish sometimes has a break in between his classes during which time he rushes to his library or the DCF (Dept of Comp Facilities, I believe) and finds himself a comp. He’s usually the last person I talk to before I fall asleep blissfully. On the weekends of course, we have a blast staying up late and catching up with everything we’ve wanted to talk about. Occasionally, we are able to voice chat, or call each other once in a while. These are usually spur of the moment things, which actually makes it even more pleasant.

Some might remark this leaves me no social life besides Jagadish or the other way around. Well, for one thing, I dont have much of a social life period. Neither of our careers, at present, allows for that. In a way, it’s almost convenient that we are able to find common time despite living such busy lives. Secondly, it’s a matter of priorities and preferences. I’d enjoy my time with friends if I had some for sure, but if I was pressed for time and I had to choose, well… I think it’s pretty obvious what I would choose to do!

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