KEYS TO MY HEART

I am sorry to have kept everyone waiting; it’s been a busy time here with the exams. And of course it does take some effort to match the impeccable style of archana. Everyone might’ve already noticed the lucidness in her style of writing compared to my cramped and searching-for-words kinda writing. Kindly bear with me until next week after which I would find time to blog regularly .

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Coming to the topic, Archana has listed out some points in her blog about making a long distance relationship work. Spending time is important but not everyone can find time like the way we do. Even though sleep is a big casuality, the fact that we’re in different time zones helps because we have two nights to lose instead of one. While people who’re working might find it as a disadvantage because its hard to find time during the day time, it’s how you work around these disadvantages is what matters.

Spending time together does help in bonding and developing an intimate relationship but the need to be together physically is always there. No matter how much time you spend together, you always yearn to be with each other. Slowly but surely, the need for something tangible becomes a necessity for the relationship to survive. This is where proper planning comes into picture. One of the two must take the responsibility of being the patient partner. Also, there is need to have an idea of how the two of you will get together. Even though it is not necessary that the plan should work on getting together immediately, it is necessary that both sit together and decide the time frame. It will not only give direction to the relationship, but also something to work on. And there is also a hope that eventually, you will be together.

There will be need for sacrifices because nothing is easy in a relationship. Sometimes it might work out easily, but most of the times, it doesnt. It is here that one must choose what is important to them. The career, parents or whatever the constraints to the love of their lives. Its probably not easy to give up a great career or loving parents but would you rather marry someone else? If you’re good enough, you can make a career anywhere and if your parents are loving, they will defnitely understand your decision. But what good is love that cant go all the way? If one really has to give up love, I dont know if i would call that love at all.

More often that not, it’s easier to give up. Especially in a long distance relationship, from time to time, you will get enough reasons to give it up and move on. Sometimes, simple tiffs will be blown out of proportion and being far away only makes it hard to set things right. But it’s always important to see the big picture. Any issue will only become as big as you make it. You will realise that these small things dont really matter when you think about the future.

I think the easiest thing to do is fall in love. The first few months/years will be a breeze because you will be so madly in love you will hardly see the faults or think about anything else. But as time passes by, you will find faults and the things you were madly in love with, will be something that will irritate you(Refer: Things I hate about you…). While guys start taking things easy as the relationship becomes older, I think women expect serious committment and plans for marriage. It is necessary to work out several things. What worked for us might not work for everyone. But it all comes down to how desperately you want to be together and how much you want each other. It doesnt really matter if it’s a long distance relationship or a regular relationship, if the love is not strong enough, nothing else can help. Holding onto unnecessary things can hurt the relationship; mistakes happen and one should always have the heart to forgive the other.

It’s not always that you find someone who will catch your eye and heart. But when you do find them, it’s important to make it count because people wait a lifetime to find love. It is very rare that you find someone who loves you as much as you love them. And my sincere advice to people in love would be, “If you’re truly in love, do whatever it takes to get married because nothing else will make you happier ”

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