Jagadish has mentioned how several odd coincidences brought us together initially. As we discovered each other, we also found several things that we thought about very differently from each other.One of the really cool things about Jagadish is his vivid, unbound imagination. He can come up with absolutely creative ideas (of which you saw an example in the blog where he wrote a story!). That was probably entirely imagined spotted with bouts of reality here and there. He had asked me to continue on with that, and I drew a complete blank! I just cannot imagine like he does.

When we first met, he would teach me how to write in telugu ie the alphabet on Yahoo! Doodle. Everyday he’d teach me a few alphabets, and I’d attempt to recreate the swirls and ticks and other complicated maneuvers to make it look just right. The next day, he’d ask me to doodle the ones I learnt the previous day. Very sadly, I think my retaining ability was just under 50% And, we didnt get very far on the alphabet before we fell in love and that has since been shelved Perhaps some day we will get down to it again and I will finally learn how to read and write in Telugu.

I dont know very much about Indian mythology. Hinduism has so many Gods and so many avatars, that it’s near impossible to know everything about each. I knew a few stories from what I read or heard here and there. On Ganesh Chathurti, Mom used to read out the origin of the Lord Ganesh every year, so that is one story I do know. Jagadish has a complete repertoire of stories at his disposal. It amazes me how much he knows about this stuff. I love hearing all the stories he tells me. He says he read this 800 page book (in Telugu, I must add) called Bhagavatam (I hope I spelt that accurately). I only read Secret Seven, Famous Five, and those school girl books that Enid Blyton wrote. There was one set of adventures she wrote about this guy called Fatty, and a cop called Goon who hated Fatty. Hm, does anyone recall what it was called?

For a long time since we met, Jagadish and I would start off by saying something and discover that the other liked the exact same thing. Jagadish, like his normal somewhat pessimistic self, put it aside as being mere coincidences. And finally, we got around to our last names at one point and discovered they both started with a T. That freaked him out. As he put it to me, it was strange that it took a “T” (on top of all the other things of course) to convince him that there might be something going on. Destiny, he suggested it was. Of course, we are naturally similar in many ways, in our likes and dislikes, and that played an important part in drawing us closer.

However, equally as naturally, we quickly found out there were differences. There are simple things: different castes, for one. I strictly adhere to vegetarianism while Jagadish didnt really. Since then he’s quite sportingly given up all that to turn veggie I’m far more social than he is. He would be perfectly happy with a computer and a video game to go with it. I like to hang out with friends and have fun generally (nothing too fancy; just movies, the beach etc). He doesnt quite approve of that–especially since I have several male friends He, I think, in a lot of ways is far more conservative than I am (reminds me of Mom a lot of the times).

But apart from this, one of the major things I think is different about us is in how we react to a situation. I am a more reactive person than he is. I like to see action; to see things get done, while he’s quite content to let things take their own course. It is often the cause of disagreement between us. I cant see his point of view and I cant get him to see mine. That reminds me; another difference is in how we get angry. When I’m angry, I tend to clam up and shut out myself. Jagadish on the other hand, is perfectly happy to reveal what’s on his mind in a rather rude and brash way. If I say I’d do something, I’d go to any lengths to at least attempt to do it, rather than reason out why it hasnt been done. I dont think Jagadish is like that-he is far more passive than passionate, thoughtful rather than active.

It is this basic difference perhaps that makes us disagree on a lot of things. Jagadish always seems to think his way is better, and obviously, I dont always agree. And so the arguments go on! Not a dull moment when he’s around.

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