Not everyone is perfect. We all have our imperfections and there are things about us that we can’t help but loathe. I’m not talking about narcissists but for an average human being, we see more faults in ourselves than others do. Sometimes we even go to the extent of hating ourselves because of these imperfections. But love changes it all. You will notice things in yourself that you haven’t noticed before. It is when you start looking at yourself through the eyes of your lover, you realize that you aren’t so bad after all.
If someone asked me who is the worst person on earth, I would gladly raise my hand and put my name first on the list because I know myself all too well and a really bad memory to remember it all (blessed are the people who can forget their mistakes easily). But ever since I met archana, I’ve done nothing but love myself. She has been a huge boost to my self-esteem. I thought I would list a few changes(both good and bad) I’ve seen in myself over the past few years since archana came into my life.
Learning Patience:
One of the first things that probably changed was my level of patience. I’ve always been eternally impatient. If i wanted something, I wanted it now and if I had to wait, I’d rather not have it at all. Yes, I was very spoiled being the first born and some sort of a child prodigy, I got preferential treatment everywhere I went. But the impatience changed the moment I met archana because I knew things would not happen in a hurry and that it would be a long long wait before we are finally together. Patience is extremely important in a long distance relationship because the distance will start showing on you eventually and at least one of the partners have to learn to bear the brunt to keep things in check, so you don’t lose the sight of the long term goal. I learned to be patient because as cliched as it might sound, good things come to those who wait. I am sure all this will pay off in a good way sometime in the future. (Archana, you better make sure it does 
). I am not saying that I never lose patience. Like I said before, we all have our faults and I lose it to the silliest of things sometimes. But all is good in the end, we cant stay angry with each other for long. 
So if you are in a long distance relationship, my advice would be to learn to be patient. I know that there is always a hurry to get together and get your life started as quickly as possible and the sight of couples walking hand-in-hand will always make you long for that feeling. If you know that he/she is the one for you, be patient and it will be really worth it when you are finally in their arms.
More changes in the next post.
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