Fickle thing called love..
Isn’t it weird how some people keep falling in and out of “love” at the drop of a hat? It has been one of those things that’s been bothering me a lot lately. I do not intend to be self-righteous but it is just ridiculous and irritating the way some people act.
One of my roomies is a complete womanizer. It is, of course, true that nobody ever gets along with their roommates and you could think that I might have some unknown agenda for laying such allegations on him. Believe me, whatever I say here is just the tip of the iceberg.
As I was saying, this guy had a girl friend in India when he came to the university with me. This did not dissuade him from adding a multitude of American girls to his Facebook and flirting with them into the wee hours of the night. He eventually found another girl living in New Jersey and would spend talking to her in the late nights spending all his minutes on the phone. He even met her when he went to meet his sister in NJ. But, apparently, nothing happened as she found out that he had a girlfriend (she saw her picture on his phone’s wallpaper which he forgot to change) and he never talked to her again or maybe she never wanted to talk to him 
Well, that’s just one instance. He recently broke up with his girlfriend for reasons unbeknownst to me and he is already in “love” with another girl. It took him a couple of months to get over his relationship and fall in love again. He insists that she is not a rebound girl and that this relationship is more “mature” than the previous relationship and what not!
The point of this rant is not to pick on him; it is just confounding how people use the word “love” for every silly feeling they have. It is just abusing a pristine word. I am not saying that you have to fall in love only once in life (even though that’s how it should be, ideally). We all have false positives, we were all young once when we fell for the wrong people. Even then, you don’t just give it all up in a few days when you have invested your time and emotions in it for a good few years. I know wallowing yourself in pity and sorrow is hardly a good thing, but could you honestly say that you were in a relationship with someone if you do not feel that way?
Having said that, I don’t even know what is the right time to move on and get on to next relationship. I just think that it is disrespectful for something you cherished and valued all these years if you just “fall in love” too soon. I really hope people don’t use “love” for every high they feel. I believe that love just does not come out of thin air. There could be attraction or even a connection to begin with but it will take awhile to understand each other, to understand your own feelings for him/her and finally to understand the ramifications of being together. It will not all be easy, not everything will be perfect but even with everything going against you, if you want to hold on to that person’s hand forever, that is when you are truly in love.
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